I hate these elitist 'had-it-tougher-than-thou' codgers

Enforcer · Alley Cat Joined: 09 May 2005 Posts: 182

I know this forum is quite lacking in activity, yes, but I still feel the need to get this off of my chest.

Have you ever suffered under an extensive period of stress and/or depression? Say, for example, one of those long-term event-triggered deep funks where you experience huge changes in your life and even grow paranoid? I'm sure we all have. At any rate, I have before (though I'm not experiencing one of these episodes as of now).

Have you ever came across one of those pretentious old farts who snort at your problems and then cut to their life story that is somehow meant to conclude that you should quit whining and get down on your knees to praise him/her for having toiled enough to pass through events that were supposedly 'worse' than your own?

Yeah, do yourself a favor and smack one of these posers upside the head with a burning iron.

To begin with, I personally don't think that anybody has ever had it worse than the other... Ever. For a small example, any poor and ragged citizen can live in poverty and starvation but come through it fresh and realize the learning experience, being able to explore in the journey to escaping this problem or die trying, in which case (assuming you aren't offered support or help) you can not risk the inconvenience of the world and its inhabitants for the remainder of your life. On the other hand, a super-spoiled, super-rich boob may not suffer from poverty or starvation, but at the bottom line that person may for example run out of things to appreciate and often feel enveloped with the withholding of leisure and never be sure where to start. In the end, it all balances out: We all suffer on the same level based on all the attributes.

But that's part of the whole thing with these 'had-it-tougher-than-thou' fruits: They see none of that. Hell, lots of the time these sorts of people refer to nothing else other than 'how much I was beaten' or 'what we could and could not afford', as if those are the only types of factors that can justify feeling miserable. This is especially annoying if one of these people happens to be one of your parents, in which case as an example they will often try to supply you with what they think is 'leisurous' and/or 'healthy' (often times this judgment is based on what they did or didn't have themselves throughout their lives) so that they'll nail you with lines like 'you think you have it so rough, and look what you've got' or 'I've done all of this for you, and now you're being an ungrateful whiner' whenever you're going through a rough time. That's right. These sorts of people have never known exactly for sure what you're thinking or followed you all the way through your entire life or felt your feelings or understood how your personality bodes with the rest of the world or known your secrets or sometimes so much as vaguely KNOW you. But they've suffered more than you ever have. That's right. And they want to show it. They're so bad-ass in their retirement-issued glasses and colastame bags so long as they have a story to whip your will into shape and turn you away from being a pussy in their saggy eyes. They ate hardtack, so now you have to eat their shit.

Honestly... Just **** off.

Don't get me wrong: It's not like I don't have sympathy myself for these sorts of people. I've not felt the misery of being whipped every day and forced to work at a restaurant to buy clothes at age 10, but I can at least understand where a person is coming from because he/she is the only person who has ever been there. And hey, I sympathize the poor victims of events like the Holocaust more than any other. But even then: Who is the bigger whining poser? The one who winces into the events of depression and confusion, looking left and right for an emotional outlet or answer to themselves and quietly spilling their guts on a rare occassion to the very few people they feel they can trust, or a belligerant and bitter has-been chiming in when unwanted to preach to their own now-withered power and deduct pretentious reasons as to why the other person is foolish for 'thinking they know the meaning of suffering'?

So at the bottom line, what is the real message these cheap degenerates want to spoon-feed us? Apparently nothing significant. Really it's all an attempt at some comeback image to save for their wasted dreams and make them look good. Therefore, in addressing these ingrates, I say: Congratulations on wasting a chunk of time you bleed out of other sensible people who (in the sense that you're a helpless, bitter old prune) bust their asses to keep you living. Kiss my ass.

Wow. That was refreshing.

Machin Shin · Little Guppy Joined: 25 Sep 2006 Posts: 36

At last, someone here can spell properly!

I agree with your post. I hate it when people pull all those I've-had-it-worse complaints.

Jstooge · Posted: Mon Sep 25, 2006 8:41 am Post subject: Agreed to both of the above.

One of the things about speaking with people who are considerably older than I am (and I admit that gap is narrowing each day) is that there tends to be this omnipresent mentality that age automatically should merit respect and authority. Now, I am 31 at this point so perhaps I am slowly crossing over to the side of humans who the next generation will be weary of confiding problems in. I do not hold my age as a badge though. The fact that I was born before some other individuals is not an accomplishment. It is a fact of biological history that I had no hand in whatsoever. I believe I am wiser than a lot of people younger and older than myself, however I know that there are those younger than me who are wiser.

One of my friends once told me something quite poignant though:

"I have learned that there are very few problems you can bring into the world that can't be solved with a brick."

Freedom Booter · Not So Newbie Joined: 25 Sep 2006 Posts: 6

Machin Shin · Little Guppy Joined: 25 Sep 2006 Posts: 36

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